Every boy from the moment he is born, sometimes even unconsciously, is taught to think of a girl as a lesser human being than him, a mere servent, someone who is meant to stay at home, give sacrifices so that you can enjoy. From the state of his mother in the home, always sacrificing her happiness for her family or his sister who is always taught to keep her brother’s wishes first, not that it is good but sometimes it is only a one way teaching.
India is a country where on one side, a girl is taken as a form of goddess, people worship her and on the other side the same girl is molested, if not physically but mentally, they too are forced to believe that this is what they are meant to do, this is where they are meant to be and at last they live with the fact that this is all their fault because they were born as a girl.
All of these were big things. If we take an example of a girl from a normal family, she is still asked to stay away from boys as they are not “safe” for her to talk to, that girl is meant to come back home before sunset because the streets are not “safe” for her, she is meant to carry a pepper spray before leaving for work because going out all alone is not “safe” for her. She is not supposed to wear reveling clothes because if something happens then it will be her falut because she was the one who was tempting people by wearing such dresses.
Still in the 21st century, after so much of science advancement and development, if a girl is going through her menses, she is meant as impure, she is not supposed to enter worship places and is not supposed to even talk to anyone about them. Her sanitary napkins are considered to be a thing of shame rather than just a medical commodity, which should be hidden from everyone’s sight because it is meant as “inappropriate” if any person, be it her brother or her father, sees it.
I am not a feminist, I do not believe that every guy has that mentality or that every family has that kind of mindset, but, I’m talking about the majority, I’m writing this through experience, by observing, by having conversation with girls who have gone through and are still going through this brutality.
I just live with a notion that-don’t teach your girl the ways of being safe but rather teach your children to be respectful. Let the boys be boys but teach them the meaning of equality and respect. Teach them to be a human rather than an animal.